{"id":4845,"date":"2026-03-14T12:05:59","date_gmt":"2026-03-14T11:05:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ontdekjeheiligegraal.com\/how-do-i-learn-to-feel\/"},"modified":"2026-06-12T14:57:24","modified_gmt":"2026-06-12T12:57:24","slug":"how-do-i-learn-to-feel","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ontdekjeheiligegraal.com\/en\/how-do-i-learn-to-feel\/","title":{"rendered":"How do I learn to feel?"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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\u2192 Do you want to feel, but don’t know how?<\/p>

\u2192 Are you feeling all sorts of things but can’t quite put them into words?<\/p>

\u2192 Are you feeling a lot of emotions but aren’t sure how to deal with them?<\/p>

\u2192 Do you sense it, but aren’t quite sure what it’s trying to tell you?<\/p>

\u2192 Do you feel like you don\u2019t feel much right now and would like to feel more?<\/p>

If you find yourself thinking, \u201cThat\u2019s exactly me!\u201d when reading any of these questions, there\u2019s a good chance you\u2019re not very good at tuning into your feelings or understanding what they\u2019re trying to tell you.<\/p>

Not being able to trust your instincts<\/h2>

We all have emotions<\/a> and feelings. Emotions and feelings originate in our limbic brain and tell us how we feel, so that we can respond in the most appropriate way possible. However\u2026 in the busy lives we lead, with all the stimuli and old pain or trauma<\/a> we often carry within us unconsciously, we don\u2019t always manage to fully understand what our feelings are trying to tell us. And we certainly don\u2019t know what to do about it. <\/p>

Emotions<\/strong><\/h2>

Let\u2019s start by breaking it down: what are emotions, and what are feelings?<\/p>

Emotions are feelings that arise quickly and intensely and subside fairly quickly as well. <\/u><\/p>

Examples of emotions include:<\/strong><\/p>

  1. Joy<\/li>
  2. Anger<\/li>
  3. Sadness<\/li><\/ol>

    What are feelings?<\/strong><\/h2>

    And what are feelings?<\/p>

    Feelings are emotional experiences that arise more gradually and often last much longer. <\/u><\/p>

    Examples of feelings include:<\/strong><\/p>

    1. Loneliness<\/li>
    2. Missing<\/li>
    3. Empathy<\/li>
    4. Depression<\/li><\/ol>

      When we\u2019re thinking too much or rushing around, we often don\u2019t pay enough attention to our feelings. It\u2019s even harder to do so when we \u2019re<\/em> constantly on the go<\/em> and feel restless as a result. So when you do want to \u201ccheck in with how you\u2019re doing,\u201d you\u2019ll likely feel mostly that unpleasant restlessness. How do you get in touch with your feelings then? <\/p>

      3 tips for getting in touch with your feelings:<\/strong><\/h2>
      1. Take your time. You can\u2019t really sense what\u2019s going on inside you when you\u2019re preoccupied with other things. Your brain can really only focus on one thing at a time. So sit down for a moment and ask yourself: what am I feeling? <\/li>
      2. When you feel restless, it\u2019s not really a feeling\u2014it\u2019s your sympathetic nervous system telling you it really wants to do something. And it\u2019s saying, \u201cI don\u2019t want to just sit here feeling this way; I want action!\u201d If you recognize that feeling, it helps to pay attention to your breathing and your heartbeat. Can you slow them down a little? And if you can, do you still feel restless? Or do you now also feel, for example, sadness, homesickness, longing, or pain\u2026 <\/li>
      3. If you really want to learn how to feel well, take this short online course: How do I deal with my feelings?<\/strong><\/a> In just one session, you\u2019ll learn the ins and outs of feeling, and you\u2019ll see how easy it is for you to connect with your feelings too!<\/li><\/ol>

        Does this article appeal to you? You might also want to check out the books by Discover Your Holy Grail.<\/strong><\/a> Are you curious about what we organize? Then sign up for one of our events<\/strong><\/a>. <\/p>

        My name is Rianne van Kuil, author of<\/em> Discover Your Holy Grail \u2013 Your Hero\u2019s Journey from Trauma to Healing<\/strong><\/em>, and a trauma and healing expert. I believe that complete healing from trauma is possible, and I guide people on that journey.<\/em><\/p>

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