{"id":4865,"date":"2025-09-16T08:00:00","date_gmt":"2025-09-16T06:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ontdekjeheiligegraal.com\/why-do-you-use-coping-mechanisms-when-dealing-with-trauma\/"},"modified":"2026-06-12T14:57:51","modified_gmt":"2026-06-12T12:57:51","slug":"why-do-you-use-coping-mechanisms-when-dealing-with-trauma","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ontdekjeheiligegraal.com\/en\/why-do-you-use-coping-mechanisms-when-dealing-with-trauma\/","title":{"rendered":"Why do you use coping mechanisms when dealing with trauma?"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"4865\" class=\"elementor elementor-4865 elementor-3011\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-bddb4a3 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"bddb4a3\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2afbd872 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"2afbd872\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">&#8220;When we&#8217;ve gone through something that makes us afraid it might happen again, we seek control. We call this way of dealing with our pain or fear a <strong>coping mechanism.&#8221;<\/strong> <\/span><\/p>\n<p>Some people really want everyone to work the same way they do, others plan their days down to the minute, and still others hope for a miracle. These are all ways of dealing with our lives, our pain, our<a href=\"https:\/\/ontdekjeheiligegraal.com\/hoe-herken-je-trauma\/\"><strong> traumas<\/strong><\/a> our fear, and our insecurity<strong>.<\/strong> <\/p>\n<h5>WHAT KINDS OF COPING MECHANISMS ARE THERE?<\/h5>\n<p>You have plenty of <strong>coping mechanisms<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>This can be a very healthy way to ask for help, for example<\/li>\n<li>But it could also be an unhealthy desire for your life to be different.<\/li>\n<li>It can even develop into a very unhealthy state known as helpless passivity. As a result, you might find yourself unable to get off the couch or look up from your phone. <\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p> <\/p>\n<p>We often use our <em>coping mechanisms<\/em> completely unconsciously or with only a limited degree of awareness. For example, when we go through something unpleasant, we start comparing ourselves to others who are \u201cworse off\u201d: <em>\u201cAt least I don\u2019t have cancer.\u201d \u201cThis is annoying, but Jordy is really going through it. His girlfriend was laid off this week, right after they bought their house!\u201d<\/em> <\/p>\n<p>By denying these mechanisms <a href=\"https:\/\/ontdekjeheiligegraal.com\/waarom-is-erkenning-geven-zo-moeilijk\/\"><strong>we deny<\/strong><\/a> we partially deny our own pain or insecurity. This makes it easier for us to survive, but the pitfall is that this denial also prevents us from taking real action, because: it\u2019s not really that bad. As a result, we often remain stuck in an unpleasant situation for much longer than is healthy for us. After all, as long as we <strong>downplay<\/strong> our own pain, when will it ever be bad enough to take action?   <\/p>\n<h5>WISHFUL THINKING<\/h5>\n<p>I know someone in my circle whose partner has been ill for a long time. Every year I hear her say, \u201cSomething really has to change now, because I can\u2019t take this anymore.\u201d Nothing changes, because her partner remains ill. And she is indeed finding it harder and harder to cope. She has a shorter fuse, more frustration, and underlying anger. Because she refuses to accept the reality of the situation\u2014that her partner is sick\u2014and instead <em>relies on <\/em>the coping mechanism <em>of wishful thinking <\/em>, she hopes every time that the situation will improve and \u201cshe\u2019ll manage until then.\u201d    <\/p>\n<h5>CONTROL OVER POWERLESSNESS<\/h5>\n<p>Why do we resort to our <strong>coping mechanisms<\/strong> even when they aren\u2019t really healthy for us? It\u2019s because the very first emotion we\u2019ve<em> all<\/em> experienced in our lives is a sense of <strong>helplessness<\/strong>. As babies, we felt this all day long, week after week. Because we no longer automatically received our nourishment, warmth, and safety as we did in the womb, the world around us suddenly feels incredibly threatening, since we are not yet capable of self-care.   <\/p>\n<p><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">This results in a constant feeling of helplessness.<\/span>  Because of these accumulated experiences, we know just how awful this feels\u2014it even feels life-threatening\u2014and we want to avoid it at all costs. As a result, we seek control in our daily lives or try to <strong>control<\/strong> others using mechanisms from our survival system. <\/p>\n<p><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">Control gives a sense of power, rather than powerlessness.<\/span>  And that\u2019s a great reason to keep looking.<\/p>\n<h5>TAKING CONTROL INSTEAD OF USING A COPING MECHANISM<\/h5>\n<p>Until\u2026 we discover that, from our <a href=\"https:\/\/ontdekjeheiligegraal.com\/wat-is-je-heilige-graal\/\">Holy Grail<\/a>\u2014our true and wise self\u2014we have all the tools we need to deal with our powerlessness in a healthy way. For example, by using our skills, letting our character work in our favor, listening to our needs, or putting our acquired knowledge into practice. <\/p>\n<p>We can take risks and embrace the unknown because we are wise enough to carefully guide that leap of faith. That way, we no longer need to control our lives, but instead live from our healthy, spontaneous side with <a href=\"https:\/\/ontdekjeheiligegraal.com\/wat-is-jouw-kracht\/\"><strong>control<\/strong><\/a>. <\/p>\n<p>By using your rational mind in combination with your emotional mind, your heart, and your intuition, you<em> decide<\/em> what the next healthy step on your path is. Now you don\u2019t need to be in control; instead, you can rely on who you truly are and what you\u2019ve learned in your life. This way, you can live your life freely and in control.  <\/p>\n<p>Does this article appeal to you? Be sure to check out the books by <a href=\"https:\/\/ontdekjeheiligegraal.com\/shop\/\"><strong>Discover Your Holy Grail<\/strong><\/a>. Are you curious about what we organize? Then sign up for one of our <a href=\"https:\/\/ontdekjeheiligegraal.com\/trainingen\/\"><strong>events<\/strong><\/a>. You might also want to check out our <a href=\"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/342lFkkN8aM69semKFBmIc?si=50ddcd58465041c4\"><strong>podcast<\/strong><\/a> for more inspiration. Episode 12 is about using our defense and coping mechanisms.<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p><em>My name is Rianne van Kuil, author of *Discover Your <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/ontdekjeheiligegraal.com\/product\/ontdek-je-heilige-graal-leesboek\/\">Holy Grail \u2013 Your Journey from Trauma to Healing<br\/><\/a><\/strong>, trauma and experiential expert, and podcast creator. I believe that complete healing from trauma is possible, and I guide people on that journey. <\/em><\/p>\n<p>Photo credit: Stock Photos<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&#8220;When we&#8217;ve gone through something that makes us afraid it might happen again, we seek control. 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