{"id":4931,"date":"2025-09-23T08:00:00","date_gmt":"2025-09-23T06:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ontdekjeheiligegraal.com\/how-do-you-deal-with-resistance\/"},"modified":"2026-06-12T14:59:14","modified_gmt":"2026-06-12T12:59:14","slug":"how-do-you-deal-with-resistance","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ontdekjeheiligegraal.com\/en\/how-do-you-deal-with-resistance\/","title":{"rendered":"How do you deal with resistance?"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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\u201cHi, this is Rianne. I\u2019m looking for help. I think it\u2019s for my addiction. I think I\u2019m addicted to relationships\u2026 Oh, you can\u2019t help me? But you do have another number. No, that\u2019s not necessary. Or\u2026 never mind. Maybe I\u2019ll call it sometime. Thanks.\u201d That day, I\u2019d mustered all my courage to call an addiction clinic. For the first time in my life, I lifted a corner of the veil of my misery for a stranger, only to let it fall back down again as soon as I realized I couldn\u2019t go there. I had absolutely no intention of calling the new number. I couldn\u2019t bear the thought of telling my story all over again. I felt intense RESISTANCE<\/u><\/strong>.<\/p>\n

HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH RESISTANCE?<\/h5>\n

Until that day, resistance<\/strong> was the red stop sign<\/strong> I paid the most attention to. I\u2019d turn around immediately whenever I came across it. Resistance made me feel restless, repulsed, afraid, unmotivated\u2014it made me want to say NO. <\/p>\n

Much later, I would learn that resistance is actually the signpost<\/a> that leads you to your pain, fear, discomfort, or old wounds. To beliefs you\u2019ve carried within you for a long time, to insecurity, and even trauma<\/a>.<\/span> Over time, I learned that resistance is something to move toward, time and time again. Why? <\/p>\n

CHANGE AND FEAR<\/h5>\n

Resistance<\/strong> gives you an instant insight into what\u2019s going on inside you\u2014things that your survival mechanism stubbornly keeps hidden. It often points to two things: change<\/strong> or fear<\/strong>. <\/p>\n

Change<\/em> is sometimes desperately needed, but how we resist it! Afraid that the much-needed change won\u2019t bring us what we\u2019re looking for, we often cling to things that have long since become unhealthy for us: a job, a relationship, a home. We\u2019re often so afraid of change that we\u2019d rather hold on to what we know than let go and take the plunge.<\/p>\n

IT DOESN’T ADD UP<\/h5>\n

We are also often afraid of rejection or loss\u2014in other words, of pain<\/strong>. We\u2019re afraid that someone will embarrass us, afraid of shame, afraid of failing, afraid that we don\u2019t belong somewhere. Or we\u2019re afraid of our emotions, our pain, or our beliefs. Because of this, we don\u2019t want to dwell on all our uncomfortable feelings of restlessness or frustration, so we go out of our way to avoid them. NO WAY! NOT NOW! IT’S NOT CONVENIENT! <\/span> We run away, fight, or numb ourselves: anything to avoid facing the pain and discomfort.<\/p>\n

UNDERSTANDING WHAT RESISTANCE MEANS<\/h5>\n

Over time, I\u2019ve learned that whenever resistance<\/strong> arose, I should move toward it. It always had something to tell me\u2014often something very valuable. Above all, I learned that I could always handle my pain and that the necessary change always led to something positive. <\/p>\n

A FEW TIPS:<\/h5>\n

To learn this, it\u2019s important to examine your resistance:<\/p>\n