How do I set (or re-establish) healthy boundaries?
Tips and tools for setting boundaries
In the online training How do I (re)establish healthy boundaries?trauma and healing expert Rianne van Kuil takes you on your personal journey from unhealthy boundaries—or even the lack thereof—to healthy boundaries. This takes place over 13 weeks with 13 videos and 13 exercises—discoveries presented in the gentle and encouraging language of Discover Your Holy Grail.
In each video, Rianne guides you on your journey, using personal examples, theory, and tools. Then you’ll get to work on the discovery associated with the session. This way, you’ll apply the theory to your own life and discover where your boundaries have become rigid or hardened, where there’s still work to be done, or where they’re already healthy.
You’ll also receive various tools and tips at each session to help you practice recognizing and setting healthy boundaries on a daily basis.
Who is this workshop for: How do I set (or re-establish) healthy boundaries?
The online course: ” How Do I Set (or Re-establish) Healthy Boundaries? ” is for anyone who:
→ doesn’t really know where his or her boundaries lie
→ is always “on”
→ often tries to control others or situations
→ finds it hard to say no
→ isn’t quite sure what he or she really wants
→ Please
→ cares a lot about what others think
→ tends to overreact
→ is too concerned with others
→ has difficulty making decisions
→ reacts defensively quickly
→ requires a great deal of autonomy
→ is stressed out or has burnout
‘Rianne is a woman on a mission. With the pure lightness of an angel. An angel with both feet firmly on the ground. She knows how to lead because she has gone before us and charted the course through the adventurous dark forest. Allowing me to travel safely. To face my pain and sorrow, to carry them. To celebrate the gentleness.’
– Marit
Learn to set boundaries
The online course: ” How Do I Set (or Re-establish) Healthy Boundaries? ” promises you:
→ a personalized approach to your specific issues
→ understanding what happened in your past that prevents you from setting boundaries
→ Support in processing painful experiences from the past
→ clear insights in plain language
→ tools to help you avoid overreacting
→ Help with saying no
→ Tips for clearly communicating what you want and what you don’t want
→ understanding your needs and desires
→ Simple tools for setting boundaries
→ A step-by-step plan for living a free and healthy life with clear boundaries
What is the structure of the training?
Starting from the date of purchase, you’ll receive two years of access to your personal online learning environment. No one else can see it but you. Starting from the moment of purchase, you’ll find a new video and an exercise every week, so you can get started right away with your topics.
The videos are about 30–45 minutes long and include a content-focused session and a (short) meditation or visualization.
Practicing Setting Boundaries
After watching the video, you’ll complete a personal assignment that you’ll find in your online learning environment. This assignment will immediately give you insight into why you might struggle to set boundaries, sometimes react too strongly, or, conversely, be overly controlling. The assignments help you explore very specifically what your history is and how it influences your life today. And they provide you with many strategies and tools to practice setting boundaries in real life, allowing you to chart your own course.
You can print out the exercises and fill them in. You can also write down the answers in your personal journal, which you will receive at the start of the training.
Free and exclusive: live Q&A
Over the course of 13 weeks, you’ll take the steps needed to live a healthy, balanced life—provided you’re willing to put what you learn into practice every day. To provide you with extra support, Rianne hosts a free Q&A session every 6 weeks, exclusively available to anyone enrolled in the online training. Here, you can ask her any personal questions or share examples of challenges you encounter during the training.
Duration of the training
The program lasts 13 weeks from the moment you purchase it. You can also take the course at a slower pace (or start later), but you cannot speed it up. This is a deliberate choice by Rianne, because you need the time to practice what you’ve learned in your daily life and to ask for help if you need it. You’ll also be regularly encouraged to do this throughout the program.
These themes will help you reestablish your boundaries:
Session 1 – Introduction + What Are Healthy Boundaries?
Session 2 – How do you recognize rigid boundaries in yourself and others?
Session 3 – How do you recognize porous boundaries in yourself and others?
Session 4 – Why do you sometimes cross (your own and others’) boundaries?
Session 5 – How do you recognize unhealthy boundaries in your relationships?
Session 6 – The Relationship Between Unhealthy Boundaries and Burnout
Session 7 – Where Do Unhealthy Boundaries Come From?
Session 8 – What if your boundaries have been compromised?
Session 9 – How does trauma affect your boundaries?
Session 10 – Why do you lose touch with yourself when your boundaries are unhealthy?
Session 11 – How do you set (or re-establish) healthy boundaries?
Session 12 – Grieving Over Boundaries That Have Been Crossed
Session 13 – Create a Free, Healthy, and Boundary-Conscious Life + Wrap-Up and Certificate
“Thanks to Rianne, I was able to see my own story in a new light and take steps that had previously seemed impossible. I’m a huge fan! And I’ll definitely come back if I need help, and I’ll recommend her to so many others, too! I think everyone could benefit from working with her.”
– Anne
Trauma coach and expert by experience Rianne van Kuil
Rianne is a trauma coach, but she also has personal experience with trauma. In her own life, she has dealt with boundary violations in various ways. For example, she was bullied for a long time at school, her boundaries and needs were not adequately acknowledged or respected within her family of origin, and she has experienced sexual abuse and rape.
As a young adult, this led her to go out of her way to please others, but also to sometimes react too strongly and remain in very unhealthy relationships for long periods of time.
Because of this, Rianne understands better than anyone else, from her own experience, what you’re going through, and that makes her coaching style clear, gentle, and practical.
Because Rianne has healed her own traumas, she has a wealth of practical, hands-on tools and tips to help you on your healing journey.
You might also want to read the articles she wrote on this topic.
Or listen to the podcast to hear what she has to say on this topic.
‘After a 60-year (!) journey of personal growth and having tried many different therapies, I can confidently say, as someone who has been through it all, that Rianne knows exactly what she’s talking about. And not only that. With her impressively sharp insight—nothing seems to escape her notice—she also manages to convey this in a warm, caring, relaxed, loving, and safe manner.”
– Nina
Q&A
To support you on your journey toward healthy boundaries, you can join the exclusive Q&As hosted by Rianne for free.
You’ll find the registration code and link in the email you’ll receive as soon as a new Q&A session is scheduled.
Training availability
The course will remain available to you for two years, so feel free to take it again in a year’s time. By then, you’ll be at a different stage in your life, and you’ll find that this leads you to new answers and insights. And you’ll likely realize that you’ve already learned a lot in the meantime.
What do I do after the training?
Once you’ve completed the training and feel that you’re not quite done learning, we encourage you to join a Three-Day Healing Retreat or a Healing Year. There, Rianne will personally guide you through the issues you’re facing in your life, helping you take your healing journey to the next level.
